Protect Your Peace - PART TWO

[00:00:19] I love that, what you said about a snow globe. I've never seen it that way because Christmas is so busy and sometimes I am learning, I'm doing a lot better. It's about maybe taking time for myself but why do I feel so guilty about that?

[00:00:36] Especially when you're in a family setting, sometimes I've had to take myself away and I'll just say to my husband, I'm just about to take myself out for like 10 minutes or I don't want him thinking it's a bad thing.

[00:00:48] A couple of times I've had people, I'm not stressed or whatever, I'm just recognizing before I get to that stage.

[00:00:55] And when you say that statement, taking some time for yourself, people go, are you okay? What's wrong? What's wrong?

[00:01:01] How do you keep yourself sane and taking time for yourself? What do you do on Christmas, Aurel?

[00:01:10] I mean, I enjoy it. I guess I probably don't, I can't think that I really feel that at Christmas right now. If I need to take five minutes longer getting ready, I'll do that.

[00:01:23] If I want to sit and have a cup of coffee and just go give me five minutes to have my coffee, I'm okay saying that. And I think it's okay saying those things without guilt. So maybe I think I don't overthink it.

[00:01:38] I think I understand how my thought works. I can recognize when someone's shaking my snow globe or when I'm shaking my snow globe. And I recognize when I need to just take a minute and slow down. And I have people around me that don't question that. And I think that's okay.

[00:01:54] Maybe recognizing that people probably are okay with that if you just take five minutes. It's maybe our expectation that they won't be okay with that. But yeah, just have a couple of deep breaths, I guess. I mean, a breathing exercise is genuinely one of the most powerful things you can do for settling your nervous system.

[00:02:10] So just take yourself and have a mindful moment with a hot drink. Just sit with a hot drink, feel the warmth of the cup, feel the warmth of the liquid. Just try and bring yourself back to being in your body, grounded in whatever way works for you, whether it be a few deep breaths, a mindful moment with a hot drink.

[00:02:32] And just take the time for yourself. And if you need to take five, 10 minutes or longer, then do that. I think don't worry about other people's expectations. Just do what you need to do for that day, I think is something really important. And make sure that you are in a situation where you can do that, I guess, you know, so you can take that little bit of time away.

[00:02:57] I think that would be my biggest tips is just having the self-awareness to recognize when you need that time is the biggest takeaway you can have because often we don't recognize, like you said, till much, much later.

[00:03:09] And by that time you've overwhelmed, you've felt resentful towards other people or the situation. Just try and stay in the moment as much as possible.

[00:03:18] And it comes back to that, do your best and park the rest. If something hasn't worked out exactly how you want it in your head, just come to terms with it and let that go. Stay in the moment as much as possible.

[00:03:28] Blueprints and the family dynamic. And I know we spoke about it in the last episode, but what can happen is you're ready to change.

[00:03:38] You're voicing, you know, you're putting your boundaries up. It's very hard when the other person, especially family members, they've seen you in this role for a very long time.

[00:03:49] So they think, Christmas, this is the way it's going to be again. And when you start reusing your power, using your voice, some people don't like that audio.

[00:03:58] And that can cause a lot of drama. And it's happened to me a few times and it's just like, I'm just going to keep quiet.

[00:04:06] I know I'm not being true to myself. And then I get really angry because I'm like, they've pissed me off or they've done that thing.

[00:04:12] They've belittled me. How do you deal with that?

[00:04:15] I don't think always keeping quiet isn't being true to yourself.

[00:04:18] I think sometimes you can disagree without arguing. And if staying quiet is the best option, given how that other person might react, maybe that is staying true to yourself because you're not further engaging.

[00:04:35] People don't like change. If you've experienced something that's changed your belief, your value, or you've moved to a different area,

[00:04:41] and they might feel like they, they might not feel like they know you. It could be coming from a place of fear that they don't know you anymore because you have changed and you've, you're not the person that they once knew.

[00:04:54] And I think there's nothing to be, you know, that's a great thing that we've, we've changed. We've, we've evolved. We were, we are where we are now.

[00:05:02] I guess there's no easy answer to that. I think sometimes not engaging in the drama is fine because you're standing in your power by not getting saved.

[00:05:11] It's sucked into the old roles. It doesn't mean you have to sit and listen to stuff that you categorically disagree with, or you find offensive. You can stop that conversation. You can change that conversation.

[00:05:21] You can challenge that conversation. But ultimately, if people are going to be picking fights around that, like, then there's nothing you can do to change their behavior.

[00:05:31] Because again, that's not your responsibility. But I guess it comes down to who are you having around you on that day?

[00:05:37] I know that sounds really harsh, but if some of your family are dicks, like you don't maybe need to have them there.

[00:05:42] Maybe you do something else or you have someone else around you, your family for that day.

[00:05:47] And again, this comes back to where I think we have people maybe, or we're around people on that day because they're family and we feel we need to, especially, they might be like,

[00:05:57] I have to see you on Christmas Day. No, we fucking don't.

[00:06:00] It's your day as much as everyone else's. Like, why can't you do your own thing?

[00:06:04] And that's, I think, where this comes back to is we don't have to be around the people we don't want to be around.

[00:06:09] And although you might feel that responsibility, then it's up to you ultimately who you're choosing to have on that day.

[00:06:18] And if they aren't the right person, could you have that word with them beforehand in some way, I guess, as well?

[00:06:29] So could you have that chat and be like, okay, we're doing it a bit different this year?

[00:06:33] Or we're doing, or could you change the environment?

[00:06:36] Could you go out into a public place for dinner, like go for dinner or something?

[00:06:40] Yeah.

[00:06:41] Having those dynamics. I don't know.

[00:06:42] It's really difficult because every family dynamic is going to be really different.

[00:06:45] But I guess it's just recognizing where you are and who you are and what your values are and how you want to have that day.

[00:06:55] And you've maybe broken your blueprints and you've changed them and you're living a new way now.

[00:07:01] And if they can't align to that, it's up to you whether you allow them in your space or not.

[00:07:05] And that is your choice, I guess.

[00:07:08] I think then obviously it could be, you know, that could also put a strain on a relationship or a marriage.

[00:07:18] Like for instance, like I don't want your mum here or your sister here or your brother here.

[00:07:24] And then that's causing friction between you and your other half.

[00:07:29] That's quite hard as well.

[00:07:31] And you're like, am I being the, then you start thinking, is it me?

[00:07:37] Is it me that's thinking these things?

[00:07:39] But I know how I feel.

[00:07:41] I mean, this comes back to our self-awareness.

[00:07:43] These are really difficult situations.

[00:07:45] I think any time that we change our own blueprints, we recognize the patterns,

[00:07:49] particularly that come up around family events or Christmas.

[00:07:52] And if we're trying to be the cycle breaker, maybe in its generations and generations of behavior,

[00:07:57] and we're trying to break that cycle, we have to be mindful.

[00:08:00] It's mindful engagement.

[00:08:02] It's how you can do that without falling out with everybody.

[00:08:06] Because we probably ultimately don't want to do that.

[00:08:08] How we can heal through our understandings.

[00:08:10] We can recognize the triggers, but not respond to them.

[00:08:14] And maybe it's around modeling that new behavior.

[00:08:16] Be the change that we want to see.

[00:08:19] So by you really behaving in a different way,

[00:08:23] because how we communicate with someone,

[00:08:25] communication is always like the response you elicit from somebody else.

[00:08:29] It's not just what we're saying or how we're behaving.

[00:08:31] It's the response we're getting from someone else.

[00:08:34] So when we change how we communicate, how we're responding,

[00:08:39] they have to change how they respond to us.

[00:08:41] So if we're not being triggered, we're not being all reactive to them,

[00:08:45] they have to change.

[00:08:46] They respond in a different way as well.

[00:08:48] So actually there can be something so powerful

[00:08:51] of just you standing in your power and being,

[00:08:54] this is who I am now,

[00:08:55] because they ultimately then respond to you differently.

[00:08:58] They can't argue if you're not arguing back.

[00:09:00] So if you're recognizing it and not letting yourself be triggered,

[00:09:03] or even if you are triggered,

[00:09:05] catching it before you respond,

[00:09:08] they're ultimately having to respond differently

[00:09:10] because they're not getting that response

[00:09:12] that they once had from you.

[00:09:13] So they respond differently.

[00:09:15] You don't go around in the cycle.

[00:09:17] You're breaking that chain reaction.

[00:09:19] And you're committing to showing up differently

[00:09:20] for that day, for that family.

[00:09:23] And you're not participating the way that you once did.

[00:09:26] Therefore, you're eliciting a completely different response.

[00:09:29] And it can be really difficult,

[00:09:31] but I think it's just around being,

[00:09:33] staying strong to who you are,

[00:09:35] what you want from the day,

[00:09:36] and how you want to be for your family.

[00:09:38] So maybe how you want to be as a role model

[00:09:40] for your partner, for your children,

[00:09:42] or for anyone else.

[00:09:43] Because it can be really difficult,

[00:09:44] especially if there's generational patterns.

[00:09:46] Like, you know,

[00:09:51] there might be lots of behaviors

[00:09:53] that's general criticisms.

[00:09:54] Like, we have quite a few in my family.

[00:09:55] There's a lot of criticism.

[00:09:57] There's a lot of emotional repression, I would say.

[00:10:00] And you might go into people-pleasing behaviors

[00:10:02] or these old roles that you used to play.

[00:10:06] Best way we can break these

[00:10:07] is just having that self-awareness.

[00:10:08] And you might go into them,

[00:10:10] but then just self-awareness brings you back out of it

[00:10:12] and be like, okay,

[00:10:14] don't need to respond like this.

[00:10:15] Don't need to take the bait.

[00:10:16] Don't need to bite.

[00:10:18] And that's what's so hard.

[00:10:20] Because you think somebody's being such a dick

[00:10:23] and their behavior is out of order.

[00:10:25] I've actually had a family member,

[00:10:28] I was trying to ask them something,

[00:10:30] I wasn't being angry or anything.

[00:10:31] I was just like, I don't understand.

[00:10:33] And they went, oh, Kirsten, shut the fuck up.

[00:10:36] I'm the elder of this family.

[00:10:39] Wow.

[00:10:39] I remember that.

[00:10:40] And I looked at them and went,

[00:10:42] are you having a laugh?

[00:10:44] I was like, are you seriously having a laugh right now?

[00:10:47] I'm a grown-ass woman.

[00:10:48] You just said that.

[00:10:49] And I'm like, is that all you've got?

[00:10:52] Like, how did it get to that stage

[00:10:54] when they're making statements like that?

[00:10:56] And it was about what I felt like.

[00:10:59] And sometimes when I feel in my family dynamic,

[00:11:03] it's putting people in their place.

[00:11:05] Yeah.

[00:11:06] And then that's when you take the role.

[00:11:07] And it's just, I'm not fighting against it,

[00:11:09] but I'm just like, I'm a grown-ass woman.

[00:11:11] It's so strange.

[00:11:12] And it frustrates me.

[00:11:14] And especially at this time of the year,

[00:11:16] I think that's why my senses are hyped,

[00:11:19] especially at Christmas.

[00:11:20] And then I start, you know, not being triggered,

[00:11:23] but I'm just, I'm on edge just a little bit.

[00:11:26] I mean, I think there's something around

[00:11:30] viewing that with a little bit,

[00:11:32] like viewing them with a little bit of compassion

[00:11:34] and being like, that behavior is coming out

[00:11:37] of a place of fear, in my opinion,

[00:11:39] because they can see the change.

[00:11:42] They can see it.

[00:11:44] And that scares them

[00:11:45] because they maybe didn't have the hold over you

[00:11:47] they once did.

[00:11:48] They didn't have the control over you they once did.

[00:11:50] They maybe didn't have you feeding them

[00:11:52] the way that you once did.

[00:11:53] So I think that losing their control over that person

[00:11:58] can be scary for them.

[00:11:59] So I think that, I think sometimes people behave,

[00:12:01] I mean, sometimes people are dicks,

[00:12:02] but I think I like to choose to believe

[00:12:04] that they're coming at that from a place of fear

[00:12:06] because they maybe are recognizing

[00:12:08] they don't know you as they once did

[00:12:10] and they don't like that.

[00:12:12] Some people break generational patterns.

[00:12:14] Other people don't.

[00:12:15] And I think when people can see you succeed,

[00:12:19] that you've changed those patterns,

[00:12:21] that can be hard for them sometimes too.

[00:12:23] So having that self-awareness

[00:12:25] of when you could be flipping back in

[00:12:27] and then pulling yourself back out is huge.

[00:12:30] You're having that mindset shit is also massive

[00:12:35] because you can then reframe it and be like,

[00:12:38] nope, that's not where I'm going.

[00:12:39] Whereas they are maybe struggling with that.

[00:12:41] They might live by those old generational standards

[00:12:43] of respect your elders, blah, blah, blah.

[00:12:45] Whereas I think us nowadays are like,

[00:12:48] no, age doesn't mean that you've earned anything

[00:12:50] other than just a few extra years.

[00:12:52] And I'm not going to respect you anymore

[00:12:55] just because you've got a few years on me.

[00:12:57] They maybe don't recognize how far you've come in life

[00:12:59] and everything you've learned and experienced

[00:13:01] and the amazing person you are now.

[00:13:04] And that's sad if they don't recognize that,

[00:13:06] but that's their shit, not yours.

[00:13:08] So I think that's definitely just like

[00:13:10] compassionately love them and be like,

[00:13:13] okay, that's your shit.

[00:13:14] That's not mine.

[00:13:15] And just like return to sender.

[00:13:16] You know, when they send you little nuggets like that,

[00:13:18] just wrap that up and send that shit back to them.

[00:13:21] That is not ours to take on.

[00:13:23] And just have that communication,

[00:13:26] you know, gently address it and be like,

[00:13:29] if we have the emotional maturity

[00:13:31] to be able to communicate back,

[00:13:32] just be like, just say that.

[00:13:34] Just because you're older doesn't mean

[00:13:35] that you are smarter or that you're do my respect.

[00:13:39] It's okay.

[00:13:41] Because every time you challenge it,

[00:13:43] even if you challenge it with silence

[00:13:45] by not responding to something

[00:13:47] that used to be baited all the time,

[00:13:50] you're showing up differently.

[00:13:51] You're changing and breaking generational behaviors

[00:13:55] that you've had for years.

[00:13:57] And I think that's so important.

[00:13:59] Even if no one recognizes it or acknowledges it,

[00:14:03] you've done that for yourself.

[00:14:04] And I think that's what's important.

[00:14:06] Don't look externally for people to validate us

[00:14:08] and be like, oh, well done.

[00:14:09] You just didn't take the bait.

[00:14:11] Who gives a shit what they think?

[00:14:12] I mean, it's how we're showing up for ourselves.

[00:14:14] And I think just stay in your power,

[00:14:17] stay in your lane and stay in your power.

[00:14:19] Just be like, I'm here for me and showing up.

[00:14:21] And I think that's the biggest takeaway

[00:14:24] is that breaking old blueprints is really hard

[00:14:27] when we're around our family or old friends.

[00:14:29] We can slip into old roles

[00:14:32] that we used to play around each other.

[00:14:35] But it doesn't need to be.

[00:14:36] You know, everything is changeable.

[00:14:39] Everything.

[00:14:39] And if we can recognize that

[00:14:43] through our own self-awareness

[00:14:44] and we've had those mindset shifts,

[00:14:48] we can elicit different responses by people

[00:14:50] just by the way we respond to them

[00:14:51] and how we're showing up in that situation.

[00:14:53] And if they're being the biggest dicks in the planet,

[00:14:57] I think,

[00:14:58] I think it was Dr. Wayne Dyer always just used to,

[00:15:01] he read this, he had this beautiful book.

[00:15:03] And I think his message was always like,

[00:15:04] just send them love.

[00:15:05] Just even if they're being horrible,

[00:15:08] like he worded it nicer,

[00:15:09] but I think it was a spiritual solution to every problem.

[00:15:13] And he always says,

[00:15:14] if they're being nasty,

[00:15:16] if they're being mean,

[00:15:17] if they're being everything else,

[00:15:18] just send love.

[00:15:19] And I think that's what we can do.

[00:15:21] If we can just view them with love and compassion,

[00:15:22] even if we completely disagree with them,

[00:15:25] it keeps us in nice energy

[00:15:28] and everything else is their responsibility.

[00:15:30] Even though you might be raging

[00:15:32] or you might be really emotional,

[00:15:33] maybe that's what they're looking for.

[00:15:35] They're trying to beat you.

[00:15:36] Whereas if you can respond and just be like,

[00:15:39] nope,

[00:15:40] I'm not the type of person

[00:15:41] that execs being spoken to like that.

[00:15:44] That's you standing in your power

[00:15:46] while still challenging it.

[00:15:47] And I think that can be the way to do that,

[00:15:51] is being able to do it

[00:15:52] without responding and being like,

[00:15:54] how the fuck are you speaking to me?

[00:15:55] Or how dare you speak to me like that?

[00:15:57] There's a difference by being like,

[00:15:58] nope, that's not for me anymore.

[00:16:01] Try again.

[00:16:02] And I think there's a completely different way

[00:16:03] of doing that

[00:16:04] where you can stand in your power with it

[00:16:06] or you can revert to old behaviors

[00:16:08] where you stay silent

[00:16:09] or you react really reactively.

[00:16:12] And I think it's around being like,

[00:16:15] well, who are you now?

[00:16:15] What's your values?

[00:16:16] Your value is if that was someone in a workplace,

[00:16:18] you wouldn't get spoken to like that.

[00:16:20] So why is it acceptable

[00:16:21] for a family member to speak to you like that?

[00:16:23] And I think that's the takeaway

[00:16:25] is having that be like,

[00:16:26] who am I now?

[00:16:28] Unacceptable for me.

[00:16:29] Where's my boundary around how people speak to me?

[00:16:32] And that's where you stand in.

[00:16:34] Break that blueprint of generation.

[00:16:35] You mentioned the last episode,

[00:16:38] The Perfect Christmas.

[00:16:39] And I do feel social media

[00:16:41] has so much to do with that.

[00:16:43] And obviously the adverts,

[00:16:45] they started way back in November.

[00:16:48] We're getting fed all this stuff.

[00:16:51] Fed all this.

[00:16:53] And it's not healthy.

[00:16:54] How do you cope with it?

[00:16:57] Yeah, I guess it comes back to self-awareness.

[00:17:00] But it's how much we consume it.

[00:17:02] Like how easily influenced are you by social media?

[00:17:06] I know I really am.

[00:17:07] I'm a marketer's dream.

[00:17:08] If you show me something in my timeline twice,

[00:17:10] I'm probably going to go ahead and buy it.

[00:17:12] I'm ridiculous.

[00:17:12] But I'm really self-aware of this.

[00:17:14] So I can notice when I've started to feel twitchy,

[00:17:18] if I see lots of pictures of people buying loads of presents

[00:17:22] and stuff like that,

[00:17:23] and then I can start overthinking that,

[00:17:25] being like,

[00:17:25] maybe I haven't got the kids enough,

[00:17:27] maybe this.

[00:17:28] And then I start having that awareness of,

[00:17:30] no, I've got them enough.

[00:17:32] I do a little thing where I'm like,

[00:17:34] something they want,

[00:17:34] something they wear,

[00:17:35] something they need,

[00:17:36] something they read.

[00:17:37] I saw that somewhere,

[00:17:38] probably on a social media years ago.

[00:17:40] And I'm like,

[00:17:40] that's nice to keep them grounded.

[00:17:43] It's a nice amount of stuff.

[00:17:44] They get loads from family.

[00:17:46] So I think having the self-awareness of how influenced you are by social media

[00:17:50] is super important.

[00:17:51] And just putting it in perspective as well,

[00:17:54] if we have lots of family that buy them lots of stuff,

[00:17:56] then your kid's going to have loads.

[00:17:58] And what are they going to learn to be grateful?

[00:18:01] Or is it going to be a pile of toys that aren't going to be played with?

[00:18:03] Which I know a lot of other parents probably experience as well,

[00:18:06] where then you are like,

[00:18:07] my kid doesn't seem grateful.

[00:18:09] And it's because they have so much that they find that hard.

[00:18:12] And it's not that they're bad kids.

[00:18:13] They've just got so much stuff that is kind of overwhelming for them.

[00:18:17] So I think just put it in perspective,

[00:18:19] like how much are you on social media?

[00:18:21] If you are noticing that you're really influenced by it,

[00:18:24] if you start noticing that you're feeling shit when you're on social media

[00:18:27] because of everything you're seeing,

[00:18:29] change who you're following or spend less time.

[00:18:32] But just come back to the self-awareness of how you're being impacted by it.

[00:18:37] And also know that,

[00:18:39] remind ourselves that social media is generally 80%.

[00:18:44] Bullshit.

[00:18:45] You know,

[00:18:45] and a lot of what we see in social media isn't real.

[00:18:51] And if it is real,

[00:18:52] are these people we would be around in real life?

[00:18:54] And if it's not,

[00:18:56] we'll be influenced by it,

[00:18:57] you know,

[00:18:57] and I think it's...

[00:18:58] Do you know what really makes me laugh though?

[00:19:01] Is,

[00:19:02] you know,

[00:19:03] when you're on TikTok,

[00:19:03] I just love looking at the comments,

[00:19:06] and it's usually,

[00:19:08] it's like,

[00:19:09] or they crack me up,

[00:19:10] or people,

[00:19:11] you know,

[00:19:13] running a bath.

[00:19:14] So they'll run an autumn bath,

[00:19:16] or they'll run like a Christmas bath,

[00:19:18] all this shit.

[00:19:19] And it's like,

[00:19:21] it's the comment that I find funny.

[00:19:24] Because you're like,

[00:19:25] oh,

[00:19:25] and the fairy lights come out,

[00:19:27] and they might put a snowman bath bomb in,

[00:19:30] and then they'll have a certain lighting,

[00:19:33] and they'll put like a Christmas movie on their iPad.

[00:19:35] And I find myself watching,

[00:19:37] the best one is you watch it,

[00:19:39] and you watch the comments,

[00:19:40] and that's what grounds me.

[00:19:41] Yeah.

[00:19:42] The comments,

[00:19:43] because social media,

[00:19:45] especially with your friends and stuff,

[00:19:47] they'll all post pictures of them and their family,

[00:19:49] they'll have Christmas parties and stuff.

[00:19:51] And sometimes people can use social media for competition as well.

[00:19:57] Oh,

[00:19:58] it's a perfect,

[00:19:58] perfect Christmas.

[00:20:02] And I think that's,

[00:20:04] yeah,

[00:20:04] just recognizing that,

[00:20:05] I think it's important.

[00:20:06] I've not actually seen these seasonal baths,

[00:20:08] but I did see some...

[00:20:10] They're so funny.

[00:20:10] I haven't seen them yet,

[00:20:12] but I've seen someone else,

[00:20:13] like how we have seasonal decoration around our house,

[00:20:16] and how this is something that,

[00:20:18] it's really only happened in the last five,

[00:20:20] ten years,

[00:20:20] where you have this whole,

[00:20:22] I don't know,

[00:20:23] autumnal Halloween decorations,

[00:20:25] then all your Christmas decorations,

[00:20:27] then spring.

[00:20:28] And it's like,

[00:20:29] when did this become a thing?

[00:20:31] And I think,

[00:20:32] it's not for everyone,

[00:20:34] but for some people,

[00:20:35] there's that expectation that we do need to do that.

[00:20:39] And I think it's just really recognizing that,

[00:20:42] isn't it?

[00:20:42] I think for some people,

[00:20:43] they're really into Christmas.

[00:20:45] Some people aren't.

[00:20:47] Like,

[00:20:47] I,

[00:20:47] I am mad for Christmas.

[00:20:49] I love all the decorations,

[00:20:50] but come the 24th,

[00:20:52] sorry,

[00:20:52] the 26th,

[00:20:53] I'm really over it.

[00:20:54] From the 1st of December,

[00:20:55] I want my tree,

[00:20:56] I want my house fully decorated.

[00:20:58] Come Boxing Day,

[00:20:59] I will happily rip everything down.

[00:21:01] I'm instantly over it.

[00:21:02] And it's ridiculous to me that I,

[00:21:05] by the 27th,

[00:21:06] 28th,

[00:21:06] I normally have everything down.

[00:21:09] Do you?

[00:21:10] Yeah,

[00:21:10] I'm really over Christmas.

[00:21:11] The minute it's been,

[00:21:12] I'm done.

[00:21:13] And I just want the house cleared so that it's fresh for New Year.

[00:21:16] But that's just,

[00:21:17] for other people,

[00:21:19] they don't go over the,

[00:21:20] they don't go as over the top as that may be due with decorations.

[00:21:23] And then there's other people who go further than me.

[00:21:25] So I think it's really around you,

[00:21:27] do you?

[00:21:27] And we know that social media is not reality for a lot of people.

[00:21:34] And I think try not to put,

[00:21:36] allow this external expectation or validation from social media.

[00:21:42] validation,

[00:21:43] isn't it?

[00:21:44] It's amazing.

[00:21:46] Thank you.

[00:21:46] And I love it.

[00:21:48] It's the whole thing about protecting your teeth.

[00:21:50] And it's constantly checking in with yourself.

[00:21:52] Yeah.

[00:21:53] It's reassuring yourself and having those positive thoughts in your head and

[00:21:59] just protect your peace.

[00:22:01] Thank you so much,

[00:22:02] Oriole.

[00:22:03] Merry Christmas.

[00:22:04] And thank you for being here and sharing your thoughts and just keeping us

[00:22:09] Scotland's women grounded.

[00:22:10] Thank you for that.

[00:22:11] And constant reassurance.

[00:22:13] We're doing fine.

[00:22:14] Just protect ourselves.

[00:22:15] I hope you have a Merry Christmas.

[00:22:17] And thank you for being here.

[00:22:19] And Merry Christmas to all the listeners as well.

[00:22:21] So yeah,

[00:22:22] Merry Christmas to everyone.

[00:22:23] I hope everyone had a lovely,

[00:22:25] lovely time.

[00:22:25] Thank you so much.

[00:22:27] Bye,

[00:22:27] doll.

[00:22:28] Bye.

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